Well, Jaben, from an evolutionary standpoint, the whole purpose of living is to rear offspring, and continue the species' existence. Of course, the way this happens is sex. Take note that the average lifespan before mass adoption of medicine is barely in the mid-late thirties. Assuming it takes 16 years to raise a child to the point where they can begin the same, the lifespan one needs, at minimum is 33 years. Sixteen from birth to mate, roughly 1 year for gestation, 16 years to raise the child until they mate. That leaves a few years, generally, tacked onto the natural lifespan, to accommodate for any other children a couple raises.
With this in mind, the human body, as all sexually reproductive animals, is literally wired to have sex upon sexual maturity. So, being as we are animals, and we are not immune to instinct, we want sex. Of course, there are exceptions. Excessive conditioning against it, or trauma, can all but eliminate the mating instinct. This is what we see in people who practice religions where sex is considered taboo, or in the case of people who have undergone trauma associated with sex.
In the case of Humans, as well as some primate species, and dolphins, however, sex is even more complex, and goes beyond the point of being a simple mating device, but also an important social device. Those 3 types of animal mate to build bonds. Couples stay together if they're having sex, generally. It's conducive to raising children if there's a little fun keeping both parents together.
Suffice it to say, though I was raised a Mormon, the abstinence-till-marriage thing never made sense, or sat well with me.
If you want to, go ahead and save the sex for marriage. Doesn't change my life. But do keep in mind, just how important it is to human physiology, once you get there. At the very least, it's good exercise.
Er, moving on from there, Hickey, I'd look into some counseling, because your worldview isn't normal, and does seem to be founded only on trauma. Moving past that will be good for you.
