3 things I've learned as both an uber nerd and an old married fart (26 feels old when you're surrounded by 18 y/o all day. Or younger here
)
1, and I mean #1. You can't just be a nerd, you have to be an uber nerd. And by that, I mean you have to go full bore with everything you do and just become a sponge. By this I don't mean know who designed the shoelaces for the 3rd ensign in Star Trek #4, I mean learn everything you can about everything. That way, you will always, ALWAYS, be able to carry on a conversation with any girl you are talking to. If she's into musicals, you've heard of them, know the good ones, etc. If she likes sports then you know your local teams and some good names to toss out. If she is talking about her hair then you know the steps to getting it cut\dyed\styled whatever. Cool thing is 90% of all of what you'll learn is relateable to our nerdy habits anyways.
2, and this is the one I wish I had been told. The quiet guy who wants to be their friend approach and she'll finally realize how awesome you are, doesn't work. From personal experience here but you just gotta put your fear aside and ask them where you stand. If you want to date someone, then ask them (odds are too that they may be just as nervous about asking you as you are them). I lost my chance at way too many dates because I thought I'd go all Disney channel on them and let them come to me. . . doesn't work. Suck it up, ask them where you stand, and if they say no then move on and the tension will be gone.
3, closely related to #2. Confidence! I've never once hid what I was into from anyone I've dated or the wife. So long as you walk tall, keep that chin up and don't be embarrassed by what you're into, then dudes\dudetts that's half the battle.
Now, all that being said, I also realize that I got a way better mate than I deserve
. Tall, blond, smart and freaking hot. So come on, if I can get someone like I got with those skills, ya'll should have no problems at all.
And to go back to page one, yes, chicks dig the armor
