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Nerds with Girls???
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SquishyShoes
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The worst thing they can do is shoot you down, make you cry, tell everyone else and completely and utterly humiliate you, but it's all good.dont think about anything just do it
Haha, seriously though. What's the worst they can do? Say no? Go for it Chao!
ACDCrockr209
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Yep, that's the worst they can do.
Remember that the word 'No' means that the girl doesn't like you. Just continue to talk to girls until you here a yes. It's like playing a level Legenadry. You fail sometimes, but untimately succeed.
Fackmo ORadula
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The easiest way to pick of broads is to be generically handsome. There's not much a dorky personality can to to nullify good looks.
SchizophrenicMC
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...which requires a certain degree of hereditary luck, the likes of which, some of us do not have.
In which case, you have to win on personality, alone, which is easier said than done.
Remember those times when you play on legendary and you get killed so many times and youre like "Screw this!" : D
But youre deffinately right. Eventually you'd have to get atleast one yes.
The only thing i'd say is dont be a pest. Nobody likes someone who just doesnt get the hint. If she says no, you might be able to try again, but not in two minutes...
SchizophrenicMC
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True facts.
ChaoBreeder
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True, but I'll try after I overcome (hopefully) my depression, I bet no girl wants someone who is depressed.
Why would an illness like this be among the first things a girl learns about you?
And have you considered that lonelyness might actually be contributing to your condition? Maybe there's nothing left to tell once you're far enough to tell her.
ChaoBreeder
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I'll bring that up with my therapist. It could be contributing. But I feel severely depressed. For years.
SchizophrenicMC
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True facts. My last girlfriend suffered from depression (among other "issues" >.>) and I stuck with her. Course, I gave that up when I found out she was cheating on me. Advice: don't date needy girls. They only want attention, and it doesn't have to be yours.
If someone cares about you, they'll stay with you. That's how friends are, and that's how girlfriends are. Usually.
Anyway, the big issue seems to be just the act of getting with a girl. And, yeah, it's an issue. Pretty depressing one. My sister's been with 16 guys since she started dating. I haven't even REALLY liked that many girls. Now, yeah, my sister's easy, but it makes it even tougher to deal with, when she can get guys, but I can't get girls. And let's keep in mind, I've talked about how I felt with all the girls I liked. Seven of 9 (Oh if only) all gave the same type of "sorry, I'm just not into you" answer, and the other 2 later admitted they only dated me because they were desperate. But, especially this time, it's all pushed even a step further, because my sister's really good friends with the girl I like and she's always talking about her and Julian. And one more step, I hooked her up with Julian. I've been down over this girl since February. And, honestly, I expected it.
Because, fear of rejection isn't always based on anecdote. Seven out of 9 trials produced the same effect, and the other 2 produced the same effect, between each other. That's data. That basically translates to "Dude, you suck, get over it."
And this is probably why I'm such a staunch Darwinist. Natural Selection, and people like me, we aren't fit to be naturally selected. It's the classic Alpha-Omega hierarchy.
But, really, all I can say is, if you have trouble swallowing that, then put on your > face, keep the depression inside around the ladies, and focus on some badassery or something. That's what I do when my hormones spike.
If someone cares about you, they'll stay with you. That's how friends are, and that's how girlfriends are. Usually.
Anyway, the big issue seems to be just the act of getting with a girl. And, yeah, it's an issue. Pretty depressing one. My sister's been with 16 guys since she started dating. I haven't even REALLY liked that many girls. Now, yeah, my sister's easy, but it makes it even tougher to deal with, when she can get guys, but I can't get girls. And let's keep in mind, I've talked about how I felt with all the girls I liked. Seven of 9 (Oh if only) all gave the same type of "sorry, I'm just not into you" answer, and the other 2 later admitted they only dated me because they were desperate. But, especially this time, it's all pushed even a step further, because my sister's really good friends with the girl I like and she's always talking about her and Julian. And one more step, I hooked her up with Julian. I've been down over this girl since February. And, honestly, I expected it.
Because, fear of rejection isn't always based on anecdote. Seven out of 9 trials produced the same effect, and the other 2 produced the same effect, between each other. That's data. That basically translates to "Dude, you suck, get over it."
And this is probably why I'm such a staunch Darwinist. Natural Selection, and people like me, we aren't fit to be naturally selected. It's the classic Alpha-Omega hierarchy.
But, really, all I can say is, if you have trouble swallowing that, then put on your >
face, keep the depression inside around the ladies, and focus on some badassery or something. That's what I do when my hormones spike.Templar 320
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True facts. My last girlfriend suffered from depression (among other "issues" >.>) and I stuck with her. Course, I gave that up when I found out she was cheating on me. Advice: don't date needy girls. They only want attention, and it doesn't have to be yours.
If someone cares about you, they'll stay with you. That's how friends are, and that's how girlfriends are. Usually.
Anyway, the big issue seems to be just the act of getting with a girl. And, yeah, it's an issue. Pretty depressing one. My sister's been with 16 guys since she started dating. I haven't even REALLY liked that many girls. Now, yeah, my sister's easy, but it makes it even tougher to deal with, when she can get guys, but I can't get girls. And let's keep in mind, I've talked about how I felt with all the girls I liked. Seven of 9 (Oh if only) all gave the same type of "sorry, I'm just not into you" answer, and the other 2 later admitted they only dated me because they were desperate. But, especially this time, it's all pushed even a step further, because my sister's really good friends with the girl I like and she's always talking about her and Julian. And one more step, I hooked her up with Julian. I've been down over this girl since February. And, honestly, I expected it.
Because, fear of rejection isn't always based on anecdote. Seven out of 9 trials produced the same effect, and the other 2 produced the same effect, between each other. That's data. That basically translates to "Dude, you suck, get over it."
And this is probably why I'm such a staunch Darwinist. Natural Selection, and people like me, we aren't fit to be naturally selected. It's the classic Alpha-Omega hierarchy.
But, really, all I can say is, if you have trouble swallowing that, then put on your >
I'm sorry to hear that, buddy. Keep something in mind for me though. You are only 16 years old (according to your profile screen). Stop trying so hard. There is no reason to complicate your life with girls this early. Nine attempts by that age says to me that you don't want to be with someone because you like them, but you just want to be with anybody. Don't settle for just anybody. You seem like a really nice and intelligent guy. You DO NOT need to settle.
I am going to say something profound (it really isn't, but it is to most young people), and girls... please forgive me. At your age, girls basically suck (no pun intended). There are a few exceptions, but tween/teen girls are almost always materialistic, immature, and self centered. Conversations with them are shallow and mind numbingly devoid of anything of any significance or weight. Just because those girls rejected you does not mean that the problem lies with you.
When I say don't settle, I don't say it because I read it off a Wheaties box. I say it because this is your happiness at stake! Do not settle for the average girl! Today's society makes it seem like it is absolutely necessary to have a girlfriend at the earliest possible moment. I promise you that it is not! If you resist the urge to go out with the first girl that will take you and wait for someone who is truly compatible (someone who shares your passions, your dreams, is funny, courageous, etc.), you will truly be happier than the average joe who settles and then finds himself stuck in a relationship who a). is extremely unhappy and unsatisfied by his partner (I don't mean sexually) and b). has now become so used to the relationship that he won't try to leave just because the relationship has become familiar. It will also save you a lot of heartache and baggage that is just better to not bring in to a relationship with the real girl that you actually want to be with.
And seriously, dude. F*&K Darwin. You are in control of your own destiny. There is nothing in your genetic code that you cannot overcome that will prevent you from being an Alpha. Think about it. You are studying to be an engineer. What is more Alpha in our society than that? Engineers make the big money, man! Your problem isn't genetic, you just need to work on your confidence a little. Find something at which you are good. Work to become great at it! From success blossoms confidence.
Girls, forgive me for the man-centric theme of my rant. Just so you all know, these same principle apply to you! Tween/teen boys suck as much as TW/T girls! They just suck in different ways. Actually, now that I think about it. It has nothing to do with gender. Tweens/Teens suck! But that is for a different rant.
But seriously girls, don't any of you settle either. Save yourself some heartache and wait for someone who is truly worth being in a relationship with.Yeah, i can see what your coming from.
I'd only ever told one girl i'd liked her in my life (im 17 now) and that was mainly because i knew i never really liked the others enough to see it going anywhere.
But the girl im with currently, we met by accident. Twice in a row, we were donating blood at the same time and the second time, we were the only ones there so it was more of an obliged conversation out of courtesy. Either way, neither of us expected it to go anywhere. But it turned out we both had about 40 friends in common and our parents had known each other (Her father went to the same church i go to now).
Anyway, this was august, last year.
I didnt tell her i liked her till Late January this year. This way, i was sure and we'd gotten to know each other over the few months. She told me she had feelings for me too and we agreed to see where it went. We hung out a bit, but nothing serious.
I didnt formally ask her out until about 2 weeks ago and we had the first date on the 14th.
Im not saying i am by any means an expert on Women and dating (i still have A LOT to learn), but we took it slow and made sure of our feelings and it seems to have worked.
We gave blood again at about 11 am yesterday and then pretty much just talked. I didnt get home till 6:30 pm : )
It was a good day.
Also, i think something else that helps is the type of person they are. We seem to be pretty compatible as far as most things go, so maybe you just havent found someone like that yet?
I'd only ever told one girl i'd liked her in my life (im 17 now) and that was mainly because i knew i never really liked the others enough to see it going anywhere.
But the girl im with currently, we met by accident. Twice in a row, we were donating blood at the same time and the second time, we were the only ones there so it was more of an obliged conversation out of courtesy. Either way, neither of us expected it to go anywhere. But it turned out we both had about 40 friends in common and our parents had known each other (Her father went to the same church i go to now).
Anyway, this was august, last year.
I didnt tell her i liked her till Late January this year. This way, i was sure and we'd gotten to know each other over the few months. She told me she had feelings for me too and we agreed to see where it went. We hung out a bit, but nothing serious.
I didnt formally ask her out until about 2 weeks ago and we had the first date on the 14th.
Im not saying i am by any means an expert on Women and dating (i still have A LOT to learn), but we took it slow and made sure of our feelings and it seems to have worked.
We gave blood again at about 11 am yesterday and then pretty much just talked. I didnt get home till 6:30 pm : )
It was a good day.
Also, i think something else that helps is the type of person they are. We seem to be pretty compatible as far as most things go, so maybe you just havent found someone like that yet?
Sorry for the double post, but that is very true. I wish i had the inteligence to be an engineer. i would have loved to do that, but i lack the mathematical abilities required. Engineers are deffinately respected (my Opa is an Engineer : D )
Keep at it man. Go for it!
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There is not a man on this Earth that can disagree with that statement.
SchizophrenicMC
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Oh, no, don't get me wrong, man. First, I'm not settling. I mean, that's 9 girls who've all been close friends over the course of the last 11 years (Given, it's only been 8 years since I started having crushes lol) and 4 of them were seriously nothing but crushes, in hindsight, but it gets the point across: girls aren't looking for the nerdy qualities that make up, essentially, me, at least at this stage in life.
But, in my hormone-driven pubescent teenage state, and with a family history of depression issues, it doesn't make it easy to be hopeful for that part of my future.
And, honestly, since I normally base my mindset on my logic, it really doesn't matter. I've got friends, and I'll always have friends, and my friends like me, and really, I'm happy with that. It's just puberty which drives this girl issue into depression. Gimme a few years, I'll be done with this stage.
That note of Darwin makes logical and scientific sense, given all involved factors, and I've yet to meet someone who can scientifically refute that. And, really, it's still fine. Alpha-Omega only rules the mating hierarchy, not the intelligence scale or the rest of the social domain. So, I'm still poised to accomplish my life goals and be happy with my friends.
Oh, and again, I'm not at all settling. I dated Ellie for 2 years, and Olivia for 6 months. I enjoyed every second of the first one, though admittedly, I only stayed with Olivia for the sex. Ellie is one of a very small group of people I know who I would consider to be smarter than I am, and she was my first friend in Arlington. Perhaps I was disillusioned by that fact, but I did, and always will, to a friendly capacity, love her.
My stupid depressing outlook on girls is based on a history of being turned down by them, and my pubescent hormone mix, trying to force my mating instinct. It's less society, and more animal instinct, I theorize, that dominates this feeling of need to find a partner, as all around me pair up, and some malarkey I don't feel like typing about animalistic human interaction. I ever mention I want to study psychology as well as engineering?
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But, in my hormone-driven pubescent teenage state, and with a family history of depression issues, it doesn't make it easy to be hopeful for that part of my future.
And, honestly, since I normally base my mindset on my logic, it really doesn't matter. I've got friends, and I'll always have friends, and my friends like me, and really, I'm happy with that. It's just puberty which drives this girl issue into depression. Gimme a few years, I'll be done with this stage.
That note of Darwin makes logical and scientific sense, given all involved factors, and I've yet to meet someone who can scientifically refute that. And, really, it's still fine. Alpha-Omega only rules the mating hierarchy, not the intelligence scale or the rest of the social domain. So, I'm still poised to accomplish my life goals and be happy with my friends.
Oh, and again, I'm not at all settling. I dated Ellie for 2 years, and Olivia for 6 months. I enjoyed every second of the first one, though admittedly, I only stayed with Olivia for the sex. Ellie is one of a very small group of people I know who I would consider to be smarter than I am, and she was my first friend in Arlington. Perhaps I was disillusioned by that fact, but I did, and always will, to a friendly capacity, love her.
My stupid depressing outlook on girls is based on a history of being turned down by them, and my pubescent hormone mix, trying to force my mating instinct. It's less society, and more animal instinct, I theorize, that dominates this feeling of need to find a partner, as all around me pair up, and some malarkey I don't feel like typing about animalistic human interaction. I ever mention I want to study psychology as well as engineering?
By the by,
scisne lingua Latina, vel subscriptionis tui elogium estne?
(Excuse me if I mis-declined any of that
)ChaoBreeder
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I'll wait then. Being younger than most of you, the waiting until I'm older thing applies. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever find someone, if I'll be alone for the rest of my life.
SchizophrenicMC
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Something to remember: even if you're not with someone, you're never alone.
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