K. I just read through this whole thread and have some things to say. First, I'm 19, a gamer girl, and until a couple months ago was in a 2 and a half year relationship. We broke up when he started doubting whether I was "the one" and started drifting away (gamer-girls don't always have it easy either, boys
).
Now,
But guys flock towards me because I'm a gamer chick. I also talk to anyone who's playing a Nintendo DS or something in coffee shops.
I know what you mean kupokitty haha it makes things so much simpler when you have such a major thing in common (that most girls don't really care for).
There isn't anything that makes nerds and relationships exclusive. That is most likely associated because a lot of nerds are socially awkward and lack either confidence or social tact, and it doesn't help that geeky things are typically male dominated, making it so many guys don't have experience in standard relationships (break ups, being casual friends with a girl, etc.).
Like any hobby, just make sure you enjoy it in moderation and keep a varied lifestyle.
I agree, most nerds are a little awkward at first. But there is not any other type of guy I would rather spend time with. Geeks and nerds are genuine people. They respect women... so much so that they treat us like queens.. nothing makes a girl feel better than to feel so appreciated. Nerds aren't shallow. They don't have ulterior motives. They are generally interested in more than just your body (or at least pretend to be haha), wanting to know more about your interests and what makes you tick. These are all great things, and if you can just look past the initial awkwardness, they generally turn out to be great guys.
I play more, know more, and can beat more people at my school on video games than anyone else at my school. That being said, getting a girl to actually talk to me is a bit difficult, since I go to your generic small town Wisconsin school.
Heyyy you go to a generic small town Wisconsin school?! I went to one too!! Fun stuff, huh? lol
Gentlemen....Hybrid's are all the rage these days...I suggest you become one yourself!
Being a well rounded individual, in my opinion, is preferable to subscribing to any one specific type and limiting your social experiences.
For you younger guys out there, try it all! Think of it as "leveling up" your rl toon. Round out your HAM bar, don't blow all your points on one attribute or skill. Round yourself out a bit more, to a versatile class that can work well in multiple scenarios. The Hybrid geek. Able to recount all the famed movie trilogies in depth, craft armor for hours on end, run a seven min mile, fix a car, fire a handgun, get laid, lift their own body weight, fix your own computer, build a work bench, play a contact sport, converse well with strangers, pick up a woman, hold down a job, use head shots to pown nubs, live independently, pay bills, have multiple degrees, grill a steak, start a fire, have owned at least 5 console systems, own a heavy bag and use it regularly, buy a home, have a comic/dvd library, have kids.....all of it!
All I'm saying, and promoting, is that you don't limit yourselves and or LET other people pigeon hole you into thinking you can't HAVE and be ANYTHING you want. You want a girl, ....this is America isn't it? So what's stopping you?
My thoughts exactly! I've used this analogy myself with some gamer-guys I call my friends. I myself, got pigeon holed in high school. These kids knew me since elementary school, and from then until about freshman year in high school I was always the teacher's pet. I participated like crrrazy in class and in middle school would occasionally "tattle" on my classmates. Lets just say that behavior of mine was not appreciated and even into junior year of high school, long after I'd stopped behaving in that excess, I still was pegged in that straight A, no fun, do-gooder category. It wasn't until people got to know me better by hanging out outSIDE of school that they got to know who I really was. On a number of occasions I can recall walking into a party and having some of my classmates genuinely surprised that I was there. I guess what I'm saying is that don't let people peg you as one particular type of person. Surprise people, do things they didn't expect from you. Show there's more to you than just a "teacher's pet" or a "geek" or even a "jock". Be unique.
I have to admit, maybe it's me being old fashioned, but I was surprised to see how many Halo costumers in this forum were female. I go to the comic con (and maybe the anime fest this year) and I see plenty of women in costume but I see a lot of Harley Quinn, Wonder Woman, Catwoman or something clearly female. But in Halo, the armor hides all of that. For the most part you can barely tell who is male or female. I don't want to generalize and that women will only wear costumes that are feminine, but I often wonder what the thought process is when deciding to don a head to toe suit of armor.
The reason I decided to make my Kat armor is because I want to be different. EVERY girl out there is dressed as wonder woman or bat girl or some other scantily-clad heroine. Sure, it's fun to dress that way occasionally and see what kind of reaction you get out of the guys. But why be just another one in the crowd? I wanted to dress up as a kick-ass, strong-willed, intelligent woman who knows how to handle a weapon (the kind of woman I like to think I am
). Not just some cookie cutter chick in a spandex suit. Also, making a suit requires a lot of time and commitment. You can't just go out to some costume store and tah-dah you're the character. I know guys will respect that, and it shows that I'm legit. I have a real passion for these games and I want people to know. How much passion are you conveying by just going out and buying something? For all you know, they could just be a chick who thought it'd be fun to dress up as this or that super powered female without knowing anything about them.
I was surprised about that as well. But what surprised me even more was that some of them are actually here "alone", i.e. without any boyfriends/husbands/siblings forcing them to join. You know, like: "Hey Barbie, I really need a Cortana to sit on that new Holoprojector-Prop on my arm piece! So either we paint you up all blue or I won't repair your XBox!"
Lololololol that made me laugh. Fyi, I am here by my own will
Soo....you're saying we should use gloss spray paint instead of matte on our armor??
HAH. Wayyyy too funny.
So yeah, geeks are becoming more popular than you may think. Eventually, every girl will end up with a guy like you. Once they get the "bad-boy" idk what anyone thinks (even my gf) phase out of their system and want to have a REAL relationship with a genuine guy, you are the ones they'll come to. Until then, be who you are and make sure you're cleaned up nice and ready to impress any girls who walk by, haha
first impressions are everything, it doesn't matter how nice of a guy you are if the girls don't want to come over and talk to you first.
<3 you guys!!!
-Angela
(p.s. sorry this is so long >.<)
