Some of you guys need some serious help. You're looking at getting girls in the wrong way. I don't want to be "that guy," and seem like a you-know-what, but I do get the girls. Not the average ones. The 8's-10's. I'm not even that good looking. I have personality issues. I'm a borderline nerd. And they still like me. It has nothing to do with how nerdy you are or what you look like. Your actions are the most important things to a girl. So here's my little set of rules I ALWAYS abide by about getting girls. Use these and look around on the internet for dating tips. There is lots of great info out there!
Rule #1: BE SUBTLE, NOT DIRECT.
Don't be so up front about your intentions with a girl. Most girls don't want a guy who cuts right to the chase. You wouldn't go out and ask a cute girl at the mall for "intimate relations" would you? No. Things need to build up. By that same principle, we see that simply asking a random girl on a date is definitely not the way to do things. It shows that you expect too much from her already. You're expecting her to say yes. Otherwise, you wouldn't have asked in the first place. You're expecting that she's attracted to and interested in you. You're expecting she's single, or that she's even into guys in the first place. Strategically place yourself to engage in natural, neutral conversation. For instance, in an art gallery, start by saying how you love the colors of the painting in front of you, in a mall start by admiring the great selection of stores, etc. Don't intentionally put yourself right beside her. Causally make your way to others and engage in a few lines of dialogue with them. Make it seem like you're just an outgoing, everyday guy. This principle works for girls you already know as well. Don't expect to go from just friends to dating in one day. Not gonna happen. Start dropping hints and being flirty. One little thing the first few times you see her. Then two or three after another few times, etc. Don't be afraid to make it known that you're interested, just give it enough time.
Rule #2: STAY RELATIVE.
Keeping up with current events and trends is very important. Although most girls don't mind nerdiness, locking yourself in your man cave for weeks at a time won't help you with the ladies. Grab a magazine or a newspaper once every few weeks. I mean the ACTUAL paper version. And ABSOLUTELY NO NERDY MAGAZINES. Get a celebrity magazine or maybe subscribe to 'Time' or something that is actually about current, interesting events. Keep it around your house in a visible but not obviously out-of-place spot. This will help you come up with something to talk about over dinner that's new and exciting, and you'll seem like a pretty intellectual guy when she sees them. Keep up with technology. If you don't have a Twitter and she does, get one. Lots of useful current info on social media outlets. If your cellphone looks like it came from the Mesozoic era, get a new one, or try not to show it. You don't have to get a new laptop as soon as the latest greatest one comes out. Just don't fall behind more than 2 years or so. It makes you seem out of touch with style. Speaking of style, while you're at the magazine stand getting your copy of this month's 'People' magazine, grab a Men's Health or GQ. Actually read them. Not only do they have great style advice, they also have dating advice, great technology sections, and tons of other useful stuff, like unique Christmas and birthday gifts for women, and awesome sports articles. I don't expect you to wear the white Georgio Armani morning suit the celebrity in the magazine is wearing. But if you don't see anything similar to what you wear in the entire magazine, start taking some notes from the articles. Ask a friend that's a girl (not the one you're trying to get with) to go shopping and get a new outfit for yourself. If you haven't had a haircut in 3 years, do something about it. Go to a local place to get it done. Make sure a younger girl (preferably under 40) cuts it. They'll be able to give you a modern cut which is attractive to females (because it was done by a female) and one which accentuates your head/face shape, body size, eye color, and skin tone. (those things actually do matter when finding the right hairstyle) Although looks aren't everything, nobody likes a guy who looks like he just walked out of the 1990's,
Rule #3: GIRLS WANT A PROJECT.
Remember the saying "Almost only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades?" Well, it counts with girls too. It's OK that she's a beatiful, successful girl and you're nerdy, slightly (slightly being the key word here. Refer back to rule #2 if you already forgot.) out of style, maybe a little sloppy sometimes, and have some other minor issues. Don't sweat it. Girls love guys who are 'almost' there. She'll teach you how to iron that crease out of all your shirts, how to stop being so "last month" with style, or how to properly clean your bathroom sink. It gives her something to do other than watch you play Halo, and it helps you bond and learn new things about each other.
Rule #4: CONFIDENCE = NATURAL
Girls love confident guys. Confidence doesn't mean talking about how strong you are or what your best assets are. Confidence is simply
being natural. So you're a nerd. Big deal. She won't even notice, once she sees how confident you are in your own skin. Don't try to seem smarter than you actually are. Don't act like you know what she's talking about if you really don't. If she's talking about something and you have no idea, ask about it. She would rather you ask than secretly lie to her. Plus you'll learn something. There IS such thing as being over confident. Make sure you aren't wasting your time with her. Just like in Rule #1, we don't want to expect that she's into you. If she's not flirting back or showing any interest after a little while, it may be a lost cause. Which brings us to our final rule.
Rule #5. YOU CAN'T HAVE THEM ALL.
Some girls are just impossible to get. They're either never single, too stuck up, or just simply don't like you. You win some and you lose some. Just remember to put this girl in your reference list so you can always refer back to her when attempting to get another girl. Maybe you'll be put in a similar situation and you can learn from your mistake last time, or maybe you'll realize that there's nothing wrong with you. Move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Actually, there are almost two times as many women on earth than there are men. Women aren't as picky as you think. They put up this front. Their hearts often seem impenetrable, but it's just their way of breaking you down and sizing you up. It helps them weed out the guys that aren't looking for more than a one night stand because the guy who tries more than once is obviously into the girl.
Just remember it's not about what you can do for the girls or looks. It's all about being relaxed and nice to them and providing someone they feel safe and confident around. Don't be intimidated.